The Body Language of Highly Perceptive + Functioning Individuals – Make All Interactions a Success
Body Language accounts for up to 90% of communication. Contrary to popular belief our body language is vastly more important than what actually comes out of our mouths in most situations. Linguistics and spoken language have not been around for the entirety of human existence, but body language has.
Think about a motivational speaker who is really good, and one who isn’t quite top tier yet. What’s the difference? Usually its not the message or the content they are preaching but the body language, hand gestures, volume, eye contact and presence. Even if they are not overtly loud, and in your face at the very least a proficient motivational speaker has confident body language and presence, and exudes a relaxed, but laser like focused demeanor.
Body language can also change the physiology of our body by practicing specific types. For example anxiety, which is a physiological response of the nervous system can be mitigated by using “power” body language.
Let’s look at the body language techniques and tips you should master to come across as confident, interested, powerful, and magnetizing.
- Eye contact is one of the most important elements of body language. It is said that the eyes “never lie” and they are “windows to the soul” and you can denote alot about someone based on this factor.
- Mantain eye contact, and break occasionally to exude a confident demeanour. Avoid breaking eye contact by looking down as this is a submissive signal. People engaged in what you are saying will look at you and break on occasion when they are speaking, those who aren’t will generally be looking behind you somewhere, or break constantly.
- In matters of attraction prolonged eye contact is usually a sign someone is interested in you. Anything longer than a normal glance may indicate interest, and the longer the eye contact the stronger that potential signal. If you make eye contact and the other person looks down, this indicates submissiveness which is essentially attraction. If they break contact looking to the side, it is a dismissal and if they break by looking up, its more of a “god help me” signal.
- Holding eye contact with men and women for longer than they do indicate dominance, but too much can be polarizing and make you look too intense or worse creepy.
Power Body Language
- Practicing power stances may sound like some power rangers shit, but It actually signals to your body that you are in charge. Testosterone goes up, cortisol (the stress hormone) goes down and it mitigates anxiety, which is very useful before doing something that is especially nerve-wracking like a speech or presentation.
- To practise this, stand with body language that indicates dominance and openness. Look straight up, put your hands on your waist, if you are sitting take up as much space as possible, lay back and put you hands behind your head. 5 minutes of this is all it takes to get the hormonal advantage of increased test and decreased cortisol.
- Many of us have the habit of trying to do everything hurriedly. We want to get our point across, and we want instantaneous gratification. Speaking or moving in a hurried manner sends a signal of anxiety, neurosis, and agitated. Walk slower, speak slower, move slower. There is no rush.
- There is a saying that you can’t please everyone, and you most certainly are no exception to that rule. Sometimes you will receive body language from others over and over again that screams “leave me alone” “not interested” or of contempt, condescension, and just not invested. While it is important to notice the signals of this outright, and push yourself a little out of your boundaries to win a client, woman, whoever it may be over, know when to cut your losses and walk away. Being overly attached or outcome dependent is usually paired with a weak display of body language
- This may seem like it doesn’t relate to body language at all, but the more comfortable we feel in the clothes we wear the more confident our body language is. Think of clothing as a complimentary aspect of your body language, it will accentuate your body language positively or negatively depending on how comfortable and stylish you feel.
Have a Firm Handshake
- This applies more so in formal or business settings but having a firm handshake, really sends a message of power, vigor and vitality. Think of all the times you have gotten a firm handshake vs a limp weak one. Who projected more confidence, more drive and just a more investment in their life. The answer should be obvious.
Smile, You Grump
- This one is particularly hard for me because I find it very hard to fake a smile, but it is vastly important. Smiling makes you appear more attractive, confident, happy, and more approachable. Smiling also makes us actually feel these things, even if we are in a lousy mood. Fake it till you make it!
- You cannot beat strong eye contact, a relaxed smile and a firm handshake. It is so simple, yet so magnetic.
Do you have any body language tips you have used with success?
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